I have problems with most self defense training. And its not because what I teach is better. It isn’t. What I refuse to “teach” does, in fact, matter though.
Humans are animals. We, as a species, aren’t as different from others as we egocentrically would like to believe.
You don’t see McDojos selling over prices BS self defense lessons to antelope. Because the god damned antelope know to run from the lion.
Humans are genetically designed for survival. You, yes you, have all the tools you need to defend yourself. You just may be too comfortable in your safe life to realize it. You, Dorothy, have all the things you need.
I can have a fresh crop of eager learners, ages 4 to 84, enter my school. No martial arts background. No athleticism built in. I can then throw them to my wolves. Hardly ever do the cute sheep roll over and die. They typically put up a good (albeit UGLY) fight. The wolves, in this scenario usually win. But to be fair, the sheep entered the wolves den.
The point I make here is that you are not helpless. You don’t ACTUALLY need me. Your instincts are usually good. Your arms flailing and legs swinging typically works. That, statistically, is all you will EVER NEED.
What you DON’T EVER NEED is some charlatan selling amped up fear for $1000/hr.
Confoundingly, I do sell self defense (for much cheaper though). So what the hell?! Well, I teach self defense for 3 reasons.
1. Refinement of instincts and reactions
Even if the antelope knows to run, her mother taught her to be alter to danger. Her mother taught her to hide in the grass and how to not text on her phone when walking through the lion’s territory. I am a good momma antelope.
The baddest ass MF in the room probably isn’t the one looking for a fight. Having physical confidence in your ability takes away your need to apply violence in most situations. When you grow the biggest antlers the lion won’t look to eat you.
3. Because it’s fun as hell
Those of us who do this because it makes us smile are probably missing some “evolved” gene. But screw it. We love this. We live for it. It’s our DNA, our heart, our soul. This becomes our tapestry, our muse, and our canvas all at once. We might get hit in the head sometimes, but we make art regardless.
We are blessed to live in a time and place where the grasslands don’t pose hazards. We aren’t in constant fear of being eaten. Our “alert” gets muted like an alarm in the morning. But remember, it still goes off. It’s still present. It doesn’t go away.
If you want to improve your safety do a couple of things dear reader.
1. Pay attention to your life. Be present.
2. Trust in yourself. You have instincts for a reason.
3. Learn what is a real potential threat and what is your fear and anxiety. Your child’s statistically chance of being kidnapped and killed is 0.000014%. If you are still worked up about abductions, THAT IS YOUR ANXIETY not reality.
4. Find a self defense instructor whose pants aren’t tiger striped, whose black belts aren’t 4 years old, and who aren’t selling gimmicky horse shit.
5. Or email me. firstname.lastname@example.org I will probably tell you its all in your head and to relax. And that’s just as important as anything else I can teach you.